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Anti-Immigrant Policies Worsen the Labor Shortage in Home Health Care

December 28, 2018 by Marylee MacDonald

Demand for nurses and home health aides is growing, but anti-immigrant policies threaten to cut off the supply of labor. For decades, the U.S. has faced a shortage of nurses and home health aides. “ The Conference Board’s Labor Shortage Index rates registered nurses (RNs) in the 94th percentile in terms of risk of labor shortage over the next decade.” Prior to the crackdown on immigrant labor, nursing homes, hospices, and home health agencies recruited nurses from abroad and or tapped the ready pool of immigrants already living here on refugee status.

woman taking blood pressure measurement
A home health aide measures the blood pressure of senior. With an aging population, the need for more home health nurses will increase, leading to an impending “care gap.”

Families of those who require long-term care often take that a step further. Because of the extraordinary expense of long-term care, families turn to immigrants in the “grey economy,” meaning immigrants here without papers.

Three-and-a-half years into caring for a young father dying of ALS, our family faced a crisis. My son-in-law could no longer walk, dress, or feed himself. I had been his caregiver for ten months, but the 16-hour days had worn me out. I had assumed that my daughter’s gold-plated insurance would kick in the moment I could no longer care for her husband; however, I was wrong.

The Custodial Care Loophole

I soon learned that insurance would only pay for a home health aide for 3 hours a day, but not weekends. Standard health insurance policies do not cover “custodial care,” meaning the Activities of Daily Living (ADL).

Long-term care insurance would have been an option, but only about 8 percent of Americans have coverage, according to the Department of Health and Human Services. A person who can no longer perform Activities of Daily Living won’t qualify for long-term care insurance. Nor do those individuals with Alzheimer’s Disease, dementia, multiple sclerosis, Parkinson’s disease, stroke, or metastatic cancer.

Unfortunately, long-term-care policies do not always provide the safety net the name implies. Premiums rise as the insured person ages. And, long-term-care policies have caps on their coverage. In 1996 the Washington Post reported on actor Christopher Reeve’s struggle as he and his wife faced bumping up against the cap on his insurance. Reeve’s tragic accident and total paralysis left him dependent on a respirator. His caregiver had to be awake and alert around the clock. That’s exhausting and impossible to manage without help.

Similarly, diseases–such as Alzheimer’s–wear out spouses or adult children. The longer the person lives, the more exhausted the caregiver becomes. For elderly patients or those with various forms of dementia, nursing homes provide one way to lessen the burden on caregivers and make care affordable. However, nursing homes are not an option for a young person who requires round-the-clock care.

The Nursing Home Dilemma

Families of adults with neurological diseases such as ALS soon discover that no nursing home will take their loved one, especially if that person has opted to go on a respirator. Although the Americans With Disabilities Act (ADA) technically makes it illegal for nursing homes to discriminate against the severely disabled, nursing home directors argue that a long-term-care facility is not appropriate placement for a young, disabled person. With a staff ratio of 1 Certified Nursing Assistant (CNA) to every 6 to 8 residents, nursing homes do not have enough staff to cover patients with extraordinary needs.

When I made inquiries on behalf of my son-in-law, nursing home directors told me that they would allow him to move in if the family could guarantee the services of a 24-hour, private-duty nurse. According to PayScale.com, the median salary for private-duty nursing is $15 to $39/hour. That’s why our exhausted family decided to keep Joe at home. When we made that decision, a home health aide began coming to our house to bathe and dress him and feed him one meal. But her help barely made a dent in our exhaustion. Joe eventually agreed to let us hire more help.

Screening Caregivers

I assisted him screening caregivers. We looked for qualities such as compassion, a love of family, and reliability. Our first home health aide was a vibrantly upbeat, beautiful, young, Ethiopian immigrant. Among the many candidates who looked good on paper, she stood out for her willingness to laugh at his jokes and do whatever it took to brighten his day.

The young Ethiopian woman was but one of the immigrants who, for the next ten years of his life, filled the care gaps. The others included a British respiratory nurse who had overstayed his visa, a refugee from Haiti, a Filipino, and a Somali refugee. Inquiring about the person’s legal status was not my first priority.

African and Haitian nurses
Immigrants from countries such as Nigeria and Haiti have filled many jobs in health care. Now, these workers, many of whom have lived and worked in the country under Temporary Protective Status, will have their TPS status revoked.

There are many reasons families might want to hire a person who is not in the country legally. They want to hire someone who will be personally compatible with their loved one, not just whomever an agency happens to send over.

Personality and ability to fit into family life are as important as the ability to transfer a person from a wheelchair to a bed or hook up a feeding tube. Caregiving skills can be taught, and generally, when the care needs are high, the family already has those skills and can pass them along.

Running a Small Nursing Home

One of the biggest hurdles for family caregivers is paperwork. The person supervising a disabled person’s care may be a terrific cook and be able to handle laundry and personal hygiene, but that person may not know how to fill out FICA statements, organize weekly payrolls, or pay quarterly taxes.

The reality is that hiring 24-hour care is not just expensive. Essentially, the family member must run a small nursing home. On top of everything else family caregivers need to do, they may feel that the paperwork is overwhelming. That’s one reason families opt to pay workers—whether immigrants or not—under the table.

Informal hiring arrangements put family caregivers at risk of running afoul of the law. And if the person they’ve hired privately becomes ill or gets detained, then the person who needs care won’t have that person showing up. Going through a home health agency means the agency handles all the details, but the family has virtually no say in who shows up at the door.

Stretching the Dollars

Families who need to hire an outside person try to stretch their dollars by offering room and board, by hiring student nurses, or by hiring illegal immigrants who seek work in the underground economy. According to the Pew Research Center, “most Americans (65 %) say immigrants strengthen the country with their hard work and talents.” Immigrants have made great contributions in caring for the disabled and elderly.

The Coming Care Gap

In the near future, the United States will “experience a dramatic shortfall in the number of family members who can supply caregiving services. AARP’s recent Care Gap Report says that when Baby Boomers reach their eighties, they will face a sharp decline in the “caregiver support ratio.” In 2010 the ratio was 1 eighty-year-old to 7 potential caregivers. By 2030 the ratio will be 1 to 3.

There are several reasons for this. Family size is smaller than in the past. Women have rejoined the work force. Children live far from their parents, not just down the block. Advanced medical care means patients with health challenges live longer. And, civic and religious groups that once provided an informal social safety net for families facing a health care crisis don’t exist in many parts of the country. Often, caregiving burdens fall on one person, with occasional respite help from others.

“As the caregiver shortage intensifies, and more and more families struggle to find paid professionals to support their loved ones, immigrants will be a critical solution to filling that gap in available caregivers,” said Robert Espinoza, vice president of policy at PHI (Paraprofessional Healthcare Institute).

That’s particularly true for home health care where immigrants make up a large percentage of the labor force. Many came as refugees, and, until recently, these refugees had legal status.

Temporary Protective Status Is Being Taken Away

Immigrant groups fleeing war or natural disaster had been able to get temporary work permits under a humanitarian program called Temporary Protective Status (TPS). The program allows them to work in the U.S. without fear of deportation. The Trump administration is revoking protection for many of these population groups.

On May 9, the U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services (USCIS) announced it would terminate Temporary Protective Status for Haitians on July 29, 2019. There are 320,000 Haitians living and working in the U.S., and 59,000 of them are employed in health care. The second largest group is Salvadorans (200,000), many of whom have lived here since 2001. They will see their privileges revoked on September 9, 2019. But changes in immigration policy do not just affect refugees.

Other Visa Problems Faced by Health Care Professionals

In addition to TPS, the Trump administration is revoking work permits for health care workers using a TN visa. These are Mexican and Canadian professionals working under the North American Free Trade Act, or NAFTA. The Canadian Broadcasting Corporation reported that “An estimated 30,000 to 40,000 Canadians work in the U.S. under the non-immigrant NAFTA professional (TN) visa.” These nurses have been told to apply for H1-B visas.

According to a report by the Conference Board, H1-B visas aren’t appropriate for nurses. To obtain a nursing license, nurses don’t need a four-year bachelor’s degree; however, a bachelor’s degree is the minimum requirement for an H1-B.

It is unlikely that immigration policy regarding health care workers will be relaxed anytime soon. A report by the Migration Policy Institute found that the U.S. immigration system does not place a priority on foreign-born health care workers. Their analysis of Department of Homeland Security (DHS) data found that 62 percent of H1-B visas went to “workers in computer-related occupations.”

The Need for Home Health Aides

And, yet, it’s immigrants who, prior to the recent changes, were filling the gap between supply and demand. “Immigrants from the Philippines accounted for nearly 30 percent of the 486,000 immigrants working as registered nurses, followed by those from India (6 percent) and Nigeria (5 percent),” the Migration Policy Institute found. In the less skilled segment of the health care industry, “Mexicans, Haitians, and Jamaicans together accounted for 31 percent of the 489,000 foreign-born nursing, psychiatric, and home health aides.”

Home care workers fall in three categories: personal care assistants, home health aides, and nursing assistants, according to the Policy Health Institute (PHI). These are the very people most needed when it comes to bathing, dressing, and caring for disabled children or adults. The shortage of home care workers will only grow more acute.

Hospitals, nursing homes, home health care agencies, and families have benefitted from immigrant labor. With changes in Temporary Protected Status work permits, many of those who have found employment in home health care may be returning to their countries of origin. Along the northern and southern borders, hospitals won’t be allowed to hire nurses from our NAFTA partner countries. With limited insurance coverage, family caregivers face tough choices about how to cover the costs of long-term care. Changes in immigration policy will put added pressure on an economy already struggling to find workers to fill jobs in health care.

Help for Caregivers in Canada

December 21, 2018 by Marylee MacDonald

Life often requires us to step away from work commitments and focus on our loved ones’ needs. Whether a person has a child with a profound disability, an aging parent, a newborn, a sibling in profound mental distress, or a spouse with a terminal condition, the need to “be there” for our loved ones often takes priority over whatever else we may have going on in our lives. In this sense, families are a sick person’s–and a society’s–ultimate safety net. By acknowledging the role caregivers play in easing the burdens of newborns, the aged, or the ill, government policies can reinforce the positive contributions caregivers make to the economy. Here’s a glimpse of how Canada’s provincial and federal governments are acknowledging the various roles caregivers play.

Last April 10, 2018, The Times Colonist, a Canadian newspaper based in British Columbia, reported from Victoria, BC on news that could affect caregivers in many common caregiving scenarios. “The British Columbia government is moving to upgrade employment legislation covering five specific work absences ranging from pregnancy leave to time off for parents of a missing or deceased child.” The changes were implemented through the Employment Standards Act.

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Photo by Nancy J. Scott

A news release from the Labour Ministry says the amendments support workers by extending compassion to families facing tragic circumstances. Parents grieving the death of a child receive up to 104 weeks of unpaid leave without concern about job loss, while compassionate care leave more than tripled from eight to 27 weeks for employees caring for a terminally ill family member.

The changes include an option for longer leave for mothers before the birth of their child, extended, unpaid parental leave for new parents, and up to 52 weeks of unpaid leave for parents dealing with a crime-related disappearance of a child.

Quebec’s Parental Leave Policy

The province of Quebec has been leading the way in improving employment standards for families with two working parents. Quebec pays for new fathers to take parental leave. The provincial program covers up to 70 percent of their income. In Quebec eighty percent of fathers claimed or planned to take parental leave in 2016, almost triple the 28 per cent recorded in 2005.

Alberta’s Policy

Policies in Alberta are similar, but not nearly as generous, as those in Quebec. Employees are eligible for five days of personal and family responsibility leave if they have been employed at least 90 days with the same employer. Leave must be considered necessary for the health of the employee or for the employee to meet his or her family responsibilities in relation to a family member. Employers and employees may agree that the employee may take the leave in half day increments if required.

So who’s eligible? The definition is broad. All of the following are considered family members:

  • Partner (spouse, adult interdependent or common-law)
  • Parents, foster parents, guardians
  • Children, foster children, wards, partner’s children
  • Siblings
  • Grandchildren
  • Grandparents
  • Any other person living with the employee as a member of their family

Caregivers Alberta has a very good description of caregivers’ challenges and contributions. “There are more than 8 million caregivers in Canada- more than 1 in 4 adults. If you were to replace all the care they provide it would cost $66 billion per year…As a society, we need caregivers. The population is aging, and people are living longer with illness and disability. As care needs grow, we rely on caregivers to fill in the gaps. But caregivers can’t do it without support and recognition from the government, the system and the community.”

It’s interesting to note that in Canada, government policies have been very forward-thinking when it comes to providing support for young parents.

Changes in Federal Policies

Across Canada the trends of fathers taking parental leave is on the rise. An analysis of recently released census data by the Vanier Institute of the Family found that nationwide, fathers are increasingly taking more time off after the birth of a child. The institute found 30 percent of new fathers in 2016 reported they took, or intended to take, parental leave, up from three per cent in 2000.

The Canadian federal budget now includes a five-week, use-it-or-lose-it incentive for new dads to take parental leave and share the responsibilities of raising their young child, according to The Canadian Press. The goal was to give parents more incentive to share child-rearing responsibilities so that new moms could more easily enter the workforce. “The government has been under increasing pressure from advocates to make further changes to Canada’s parental leave policies,” according to reporter Andy Blatchford from The Canadian Press.

Prime Minister Justin Trudeau said making it easier for fathers to take time off to care for a newborn would help remove workforce barriers for women. In general, the participation rate of women in Canada’s job market is largely unchanged from where it was in the early 2000s, said a memo, obtained by The Canadian Press under the Access to Information Act.

“Whatever format you have, that path is removing some of the barriers and the obligations and the expectations that hold women back in the workforce, so there are a lot of things to do,” Trudeau said.

Under rules that came into effect in December, new parents can spread 12 months of employment insurance benefits over 18 months, even though experts, labor and business groups expressed concern the program would only benefit families with higher incomes.

The Liberals have heard from experts that the popular program in Quebec should be replicated at the federal level. They’ve also been urged to raise the value of benefits paid out for parents who opt for an 18-month parental leave, and to provide low-income families with access to a six-month leave option with a higher rate of income replacement. Some have also recommended making leaves available to people who aren’t considered a primary caregiver, such as a grandparent.

What does this all cost? Last year’s budget pegged the cost of the measure at $152 million over five years and $27.5 million a year afterwards. It’s interesting to look to our neighbor to the north and contemplate why some circumstances (and people) receive support.

 

Yoga and Meditation: A Beginner’s Guide

October 11, 2018 by Marylee MacDonald

As Bette Davis said, “Old age ain’t no place for sissies.” Age brings with it many difficulties, even for seniors who are healthy. For caregivers, life can get extra stressful. You can stay so busy taking care of other people that you forget about yourself. Yoga and meditation can assist both seniors and caregivers with these issues. Here are some of the benefits of the two practices and how you can start today.

yoga and meditation
Meditation and yoga can help both seniors and caregivers.

Yoga

Yoga benefits you physically and mentally by helping you tune into your body to develop awareness and strength. There are over 100 kinds of yoga. Most consist of a core regimen of poses that work different muscle groups and incorporate breathing exercises and meditation. Along with mitigating various types of chronic pain, yoga is also associated with lowering blood pressure and promoting quality sleep. Furthermore, you can expect improvements to your flexibility, muscle and core strength, respiration, energy, injury prevention, and cardio and circulatory health. Some mental health benefits include mental clarity, relaxation, focused attention, and sharper concentration. Perhaps most importantly, yoga can significantly reduce stress and the harmful effects it has on the mind and body.

Meditation

Almost all yoga sessions involve some form of meditation, which is responsible for many of the mental benefits that come with yoga. In addition to those benefits, meditation changes brain physiology and slows the aging process. People who meditate tend to have more gray matter in their brains. This means they have more brain cells and heightened cognitive function.

Probably the most unique benefit that meditation offers is increased self-awareness. The act of exploring your inner self can give you a fresh perspective. A change in perspective can help you learn to accept hardships in life and make changes where you can. Moreover, practicing meditation often gives you the desire to put only good things in your body, which encourages a healthier lifestyle.

Getting Started

Regardless of your age or what kind of shape you’re in, you can start yoga with hardly any equipment. Just purchase a non-slip yoga mat and put on some comfortable clothes. While taking a yoga class in person with a professional trainer is a great way to begin, finding a good instructional DVD also works well. You can even find free online videos to get you started. Just remember to be patient and keep an open mind. You’ll see results in no time.

As far as meditation goes, it’s best to keep it simple. You can do it anywhere and anytime, as long as it’s a quiet place and you have set aside time to relax.

When starting out, it’s best to sit down and set a timer. Begin with meditating for five minutes and work your way up as you progress. Breathing-focused meditation is a great one to start with, which is literally sitting and focusing on your breathing. Anytime your thoughts move from your breath to something else, recalibrate your focus back on your breathing. Doing this over and over until the timer stops is how your attention span and focus is improved over time.

Stretching

If you’ve started yoga and meditation (or plan to), another way to benefit your health is to add stretching to your daily routine. When done regularly and correctly, stretching eases stress, tension, pain, and stiffness in the body. It also increases blood flow to your muscles, which gets rid of waste byproducts and brings nourishment to your muscles. When your muscles are loose, they help you maintain good posture, which minimizes aches and pains. Stretching is also good for your joints, which leads to better balance and coordination. Particularly as you get older, balance and coordination help you stay mobile and prevent injuries from falls.

Whether you’re a senior who wants to improve your health (or stay healthy) or a caretaker who wants to manage your stress level, yoga and meditation are among the best activities to add to your life. The best part is that anyone can do it. Just start moving and focusing your mind today. You’ll soon begin to notice improvements to your overall health.

For more on the benefits of maintaining your mental health, watch this YouTube video.

 

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Tech Tips for Helping Seniors from a Distance

July 9, 2018 by Marylee MacDonald

As people get older, they tend to need a little help. Most seniors can function just fine; it’s just that sometimes, support from loved ones can make a positive difference. That’s why you are ready to help your parents or elderly friend.

Decades ago, you had to live near a senior in order to help them. If you lived far away, there really wasn’t much you could do. However, technology has changed a lot since then. These days, you can provide some assistance to a senior even if you live some distance away. Before you can delve into tech like this, it helps to understand what kind of help seniors often need.

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Problems Faced By Seniors

Lumen Learning has a free course online that describes the unique challenges faced by seniors. These include:

  • Financial problems brought on by less income and more healthcare expenses.
  • Ageism, or discrimination and prejudice based solely on the senior’s age.
  • Mistreatment or even abuse by people who should be providing care.
  • Loneliness and few opportunities to socialize.
  • Depression and similar mental health issues.

But one of the biggest challenges faced by seniors is health. Thankfully, people are living longer than ever. The consequence of that is having more health problems. As Everyday Health explains, many seniors face the same medical conditions:

  • Arthritis
  • Heart disease
  • Cancer
  • Alzheimer’s disease and dementia
  • Osteoporosis
  • Diabetes

To make matters worse, an aging immune system means “simple” problems like the flu can be much more serious.

Apps & Sites To Help You Support Seniors

Then how can you help with these problems? Technology has advanced a lot these days, and there are apps, sites, and individual pieces of technology that can help.

For example, video chat can help alleviate some of the loneliness. It can also strengthen bonds between the senior and their family or loved ones. Video games can provide the mental stimulation needed to help fight dementia and can even be a source of socialization as well. There are even health trackers that share information with you over the internet. All of this can be done without needing to live near the senior.

Technology like this isn’t just reserved for you. You can buy helpful technology online and ship it to your senior friend. Some must-have technology for seniors include:

  • Tablets and iPads for photos, music, video chat, and more.
  • Hearing aids to help with the loss of hearing that often comes with age.
  • Wireless home monitoring systems in case of medical emergencies.
  • Assistive technology such as LED lighting or stove shut-off systems.

Home Services

There are other ways to help besides providing technology options. The internet allows you to set up many home services despite living far away.
Nutrition is crucial for seniors, especially if they have difficulty getting to the grocery store. Caring.com lists meal delivery services that can give your senior friend the food they need to stay healthy. This can mean regular groceries or complete meals to cook at home.

If the senior has a pet dog, you can even help with a dog-walking service. You can set up an appointment and pay online, and a trained dog walker will visit your senior when it’s convenient.

Technology Can Help

It’s hard to take care of a senior from afar, but technology is making things much easier. Once you know the typical problems faced by seniors, you can help by using online services and even helping the senior have some technology themselves. This way, you can support seniors despite not living nearby.

For more information on ways to help from afar, download this free PDF on Smartphone apps. https://maryleemacdonald.lpages.co/smartphone-apps/

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